Andrew and Sarah met on a dating app. Their first date was just supposed to be coffee, but it lasted nine glorious hours. They talked nonstop across four San Francisco neighborhoods.
But by 2 a.m., Sarah had an admission to make. She told Andrew, who is Asian-American, that his “race might be an issue.”
Andrew was shocked. The kicker? Sarah is also Asian-American.
Today, we hear both sides of this story — and find out where Sarah and Andrew are now.
“Manic Pixie Real Girl,” Jerico Mandybur
“I felt a hot shame,” Jerico wrote in her Tiny Love Story, about her reaction to first learning the term “manic pixie dream girl.” “I loved someone who needed me to stay that way. A man who needed me to remain a fantasy forever out of reach.”
Hosted by: Daniel Jones and Miya Lee
Produced by: Kelly Prime and Hans Buetow
Edited by: Wendy Dorr
Music by: Dan Powell
“Manic Pixie Real Girl” written and read by: Jerico Mandybur
“When a Dating Dare Leads to Months of Soul Searching,” narration by: Ewan Chung and produced by Ryan Wegner and Kelly Rogers
Executive Producer, NYT Audio: Lisa Tobin
Assistant Managing Editor, NYT: Sam Dolnick
Special thanks: Nora Keller, Mahima Chablani, Julia Simon, Laura Kim, Bonnie Wertheim, Anya Strzemien, Joanna Nikas and Choire Sicha. The end of the episode featured an interview with Sarah Chen and Andrew Lee.
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